Wednesday September 01, 2004
hey kiddies, learn a lesson from grandma goldie mkay?
Heh, I think a couple of people got the wrong end of the stick with my last entry... I meant I was going to spring-clean my blogroll of course. Although I'm not sure I did too much actual cleaning. Cos that's a dirty word an' all.
(Note: I apologise for the severe lack of extended-entryness. I hate it when they're not 'collaspsible' and take you to another page, and I can't be bothered installing a script tonight. Yes, I am anal about my blog - if I can't do it right I just won't bother. Oh, and apologies to those who've heard all or part of my melodramatic hooey already *kiss kiss*)
So. Now I'm sitting here, with a minor codeine-withdrawal headache, wondering exactly where to start.
Do I start with our ISP woes? (I mean, what kind of ISP gives their clients 36 hours notice via email to back up all their files or they're screwed? It's not like they didn't have enough space on their
porn other servers to back up some small personal sites. But then THAT would constitute actual customer service, which I'm sure they'd never want to be accused of /rant)
Do I start with why I finally stopped writing a couple of months back, after months of negative reinforcement?
Do I start with my sister's tumour actually being diagnosed as malignant 3 weeks ago, after we were told it was very likely benign?
Oooooh... the DRAMA!
You know what? I'm so bloody tired I can't even make up a silly story in an attempt to make you laugh. Instead, I'll give it to you straight:
Back in February (yes, it goes back that far), I was severely disciplined at work for certain entries I wrote on my blog about how 'things' were 'done' there. They took my internet away as a punishment for three months, even though it severly hampered my ability to do my job and even though I'd never made a post from there (not since i was on blogspot anyways). I was also told I had no career there amd that i was lucky not to be going to court. Even though i never used any names. Even though I was only venting my feelings, not stating anything as fact.
I was given an offical warning straight up. Which I prolly should have seen coming. But anyway. And I prolly should have switched domains straight away to give myself some peace of mind. But anyway again.
I wasn't going to let them get to me, you see? I wasn't going to let them win by switching domains. But I was constantly wondering of course. And knowing that they were monitoring everything I wrote, my stubborness eventually lead me to censor myself. Any idiot could have told me I was going to do that. So they won anyway. Bloody pride.
I'd already developed a major blogroll problem (mainly cos you're all just too cool). That coupled with my addiction to surfing and *gasp* commenting on other people's sites, meant that I was getting to bed after 1 most nights, then getting up at 6.30, surfing some more, and getting in to work late. Even though I was already in trouble.
When it comes to my little pleasures I have very little discipline (as many of you will know). So of course this turned into a vicious cycle. I was always in late, always tired, and as my job as an editor requires a certain, shall we say, attention to detail... well, it wasn't long til I was in major league issue-town.
About this time my anxiety and panic attacks came back with a vengeance, and I finally pushed myself to visit the doctor and start on what sexy!husband and I refer to as my 'brain pills'. Yum. Little white cruchy ovals full of serotonin producing-goodness. I still don't know why I waited so long.
Meanwhile my boss started performance counselling sessions in an effort to 'rehabilitate' me. I was nearly through when my sister was diagnosed with her brain tumour in june. I went literally to pieces for a week, which i took as sick leave (this was less than a 1/3 of what I had accrued). And according to my boss I'd 'lost my focus' once again. She sat me down and gave me a good talking to when I came back to work. She was actually really MEAN to me. She told me I had to separate my personal life and my work life and just get on with things.
I suppose some people might think that your 25 year old sister being diagnosed with cancer was an everyday emotional occurence that you could just block out and keep working, but I'm just not one of them.
Fuck this for a joke, I just lost half my entry. No seriously!
To be continued (cos there's no way I'm going to soend another half-hour rewriting what i just wrote ;)
posted by goldie
@ 09:35 PM on 09.01.04
Fuck that bitch. I'd probably have hired someone to punch her in the face. Twice. With Brass Knuckles. Let's see her work through that pain. Ugh. *Pats Goldie on the back* It's okay Goldelen, Holdie, when life starts kicking you in the gut, get up and take it out on some evil bastard at work. Extreme violence is the way to go. QW! in '04!
Oh man, screw them. I had a boss once who, when my mother had a tumor in her lung, lectured me on the reasons why I should take phone calls about her condition in a vacant office and close the door (I had no door, it was a cubicle farm) for my own privacy.
A week or two later, I was chastized for leaving my desk in the middle of the day to "talk on the phone on a personal call."
Odd coincidences, but still sucky nonetheless. Can't wait to see part 2.
Oh Goldie - I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry things have been so rough for you. Even more sorry about your sister and the cancer thing - how awful to be told everything is fine... but now it's not.
As for the job - start looking! Find somewhere else to work. This is not not not the place for you. They'll probably tell you next that you can't blog - period - because it's against their policy or some wonky nonsense. They'll try and find out if you're surfing from home or something. Geeze!!!
I'll be waiting for the rest... it feels like the other shoe is about to drop. *sigh* Hang in there - we're with you.
Not quite understanding how you could get in trouble for blogging about work when you didn't name any names. How did they get a hold of your domain URL?
Either way - - sorry to hear that you have been (are) going through all this . . when it rains, it pours down under!
*Big Hug* to you, goldie - keep your chin up, girl!
I am so so sorry about your sister and everything. I know we don't know the whole story yet, but I know how bad the cancer thing sucks.
I'm sorry to hear about your sister, Goldie, and that mean Boss!
I wish I lived near you and I was a girl so I could give your boss a hard Newgy to her head!
Hey girl.. you need me to take a trip out to Aussie? I'll go on an ass kicking spree.
I am sorry I haven't been to your blog. I didn't know your address chnaged and I have ben gong to your old one and wondering why you haven't been blogging...I hope I can catch up to the few moths i have missed. I'm sorry! :)
Part 2... in anticipation... baited breath... happy ending sought...
Hunger felt... somewhat thirsty... sanwich acquired... Sprite added... feeling better...
This is my first time here and I just want to say 2 things. First off I'm sorry about your sister. I know how hard things like that can be on framily and loved ones. 2nd tell your boss to go fuck herself. I'll do it for you if you want. She has no right to tell you how to feel. What would she do if she was in your position? She'd probably take all the time off she wanted and that would be ok. But it's not ok if you do it? whatever. Next time she tries to have a little 'chat' with you tell her you quit. you don't need that kind of stress added to what's already going on in your life.
I had no idea about what happened in your workplace. I'm really sorry to hear that. It's sad that they took away your Internet as if you were a child and they took away your video games. That really doesn't say much for them as employers, to be honest.
I'm just glad you're back! It's nice to have you around again. :)
I'm glad to have found your new site, but oh no.
I'm sending positive vibes in your direction for your sister.
Hugs to you and your sister. A bitchslap and a stranglehold for your boss. (I think my former boss may be related to yours....)
Welcome home sweetie! I missed you so! I am so sorry about your sister. ((hugs)) I really am glad you're back.
So, Moxie eh? I can't even wait. Who's doing you? Joelle? Julie? Kathy? Mel? I can't wait to see it!!!!
Wait. Grandma? Are you nuts? I do believe you are younger than me...
Welcome back! We're all still loyal fans!
First off, fuck your goddamn stupid cunt of a boss. What she said was braindead and completely uncompassionate. She shouldn't be allowed to breathe the same air as us decent people, and she sure as hell has no business being in a supervisory capacity. Retarded cow.
I am very sorry about your sister. Sending positive thoughts your way. (((hugs))
As for getting in trouble over your blog, well, that's bullshit, too. You didn't use any names or anything, so I fail to see how they could do anything (legally) beyond telling you to use your time more productively. Idiots.